Traditionally, divorce has always been viewed as an adversarial process. There was a time when couples would battle it out in court and attempt to walk away as the winner. In reality, there are no winners in a divorce that is full of conflict, particularly if children are at the center of proceedings.
For these reasons, a growing number of divorcing couples are looking into more collaborative approaches, and mediation is one of these.
Mediation involves a neutral third party (the mediator) trying to encourage open discussions and reaching settlements that are fair to all parties. While mediation can be successful, it’s important to take the right approach. Outlined below are some important things to keep in mind if you are considering this method.
Enter with the right mindset
Before committing to mediation, it’s vital to think carefully about whether or not you are genuinely willing to give it a try. Communication and compromise are essential to the process working as it is supposed to.
Without them, mediation could break down quickly. If you and your spouse are willing to cooperate and find a middle ground, then negotiations can be very productive and efficient, and you could save a lot of time and money compared to a litigated divorce.
Take your time with the process
While mediation can be quicker than litigation, it’s still important to take your time. Even a collaborative divorce can be tough at times, and you shouldn’t spread yourself too thin.
Unlike the court system, mediation schedules can be worked around the times that are best for you and your spouse. If you’re feeling rushed, then you are going to be under more strain which will impact your overall well-being.
Even during a collaborative approach, it’s vital to have support behind you. A pivotal aspect of this is having the right legal guidance to guide you along the way.