There are several reasons you might want to fly overseas with your kids after divorcing. Perhaps you want to go and see relatives, maybe the kids are competing in an international competition, or maybe you just fancy a holiday.
In all cases, it’s important to realize that things will be different now that their other parent will not be traveling with you.
You can fly, provided you have the other parent’s permission
To fly overseas with the kids, you will need the written permission of your co-parent. Without it, you are unlikely to get past the check-in desk. You’ll also need to show documentation that proves your relationship with the kids. Their birth certificate that mentions you as their parent should suffice.
What if the other parent does not want to give permission?
Not all parents will consent to their kids flying overseas. Some fear their spouse will stay overseas with them – which does happen and is the reason there are such strict rules in place.
Others might have no such fears but don’t see why they should have to give up their time with the kids so you can go on holiday with them. While it’s misguided – as children can gain huge benefits from travel – it often comes from a place of love. They simply can’t bear the thought of not seeing the kids during that time.
In other cases, a co-parent will refuse out of spite or jealousy. They want to make your life as difficult as possible, even if that means denying the children opportunities to travel. Maybe they are always that way, or perhaps they are still reeling from the divorce and lashing out at you in confusion.
If a parent refuses to permit you to travel with the kids, you can approach a court for permission. However, it is often possible to resolve things by being patient and making a few compromises of your own – such as giving your co-parent extra time with the kids before or after your trip. Putting plans in place to enable them to keep in touch with the kids while you are away can also ease their concerns.
This is just one of the many things to consider when negotiating custody and parenting arrangements.