Co-parenting isn’t always an easy situation so it’s best to take what steps you can to improve the chance that it will be successful.
One of the most important things for you to remember is that you and your co-parent need to always put the child’s best interests first. This may often mean putting your own feelings about your ex aside and focusing instead on your child’s feelings and overall needs. Here are some of the prime keys to successful co-parenting:
Flexibility
Many situations that come up while co-parenting can be resolved quickly if both parents are willing to be a bit flexible. This might mean trading one of your days with your ex if a beloved family member on your ex’s side is in town to visit for that day. Your ex would be expected to do the same for you in a similar situation.
Communication
You and your ex should communicate respectfully and directly. Speaking to each other, whether through verbal or written methods, can cut out a lot of misunderstandings. You also shouldn’t ever ask the children to relay messages because this can put them in a precarious position.
Compliance
As part of a co-parenting situation, you and your ex will have a parenting plan. Complying with that plan is central to success. While it is true that there is some flexibility that will need to occur, the basic precepts of the agreement should be followed.
When a parenting plan isn’t working or you are struggling to craft a workable agreement, the guidance of an experienced family law attorney can be invaluable. Don’t be afraid to reach out for help.