After getting divorced, you go through a period of time in which you just want to be by yourself. You have to process things and get used to the changes in your life: Splitting custody of the children, living on only one income, moving to a new house and a multitude of other things take up your time and focus.
But then you start thinking about dating again. You don’t want to be single from here on out. Are you ready for a new relationship?
Some things to consider
Obviously, the answer to when the right time is to start dating after divorce is something only you can decide. It is your life, and everyone’s situation is unique. However, here are a few key things to consider:
- Don’t force yourself to stick to any sort of schedule. Some people are single for years before they date again; while others start dating immediately.
- Think about how it will impact the kids. Are they also going to be around these new people?
- Consider the details of your child custody agreement. Does your ex feel comfortable with a new person staying in the same home with the children or spending significant time with them?
- If you have older children, consider talking to them about it. Yes, you are the adult and you can make any decision you want. However, t’s always valuable to give your kids a voice and to show them that they matter to you.
Moving forward with your life after a divorce is healthy and expected. It does not look the same for everyone, nor should it. You need to give it careful thought, and that may mean considering your custody agreement, parenting plan and much more. Take the time to do it the right way.